Dear Annie: I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and have been through surgery and radiation treatments. While my oncologists tell me I'm a 'survivor', I struggle with the label. I have scars, am on medication for the next decade with potential severe side effects, and face the constant worry of cancer recurrence. This has left me feeling depressed, which I believe is a natural and valid response to such a life-altering experience. I find it challenging to express my emotions to others, as the focus often shifts to my cancer diagnosis rather than my personal feelings. I've tried to open up, but the word 'depressed' seems to elicit more fear than my cancer diagnosis itself. I've also found that people expect me to 'get over it' quickly, which is not realistic. I don't need medication, and group discussions haven't been helpful. I'm curious: When did it become unacceptable to feel sad or depressed in response to a traumatic event? I understand that clinical depression is different, but I believe it's essential to acknowledge and validate these emotions. I'm not asking for sympathy; I'm seeking understanding and support. I want to be seen as a whole person, not just a cancer survivor. -- Sad and Struggling
